We slept together that first night, and I’ve been seeing them ever since. They’re so communicative with each other and with me. They’re both gorgeous, witty, big-hearted, and kind. We, however, didn’t make it past two rounds before acknowledging that there might be something special here. I always insist on this scheduling-it takes the pressure off the first date and gives the couple and the unicorn time to honestly assess how they feel about each other. If we did, we’d then meet up again for sex.
We met up for a drink to see if we hit it off. Two years ago, I matched with B & P on Tinder. Prospective unicorns, take your time finding hot couples. With a newfound philosophy of “VET VET VET,” I had fewer but way better matches. Maybe because there are way more users on Tinder, maybe because it’s easier to vet those who know your Facebook friends or friends-of-friends, or maybe because Tinder is less anonymous so people are on better behavior (it’s harder to be an asshole when your name and Facebook pictures are attached to your profile)-who knows, but the quality of people I met was so much higher. (Couples in the know keep an eye out for that little emoji, which tells them that this woman is game for threesome sex). I wouldn’t necessarily want my boss or cousins to know what I like to do behind closed doors.Īfter a few weeks off, I dropped a ? in my Tinder profile, and the matches started coming in. To be fair, I understand why some discretion can be necessary sex positivity isn’t the law of the land, and there can certainly be repercussions for someone outed as kinky or non-monogamous.
What initially attracted me to Feeld is what ultimately made it, in my experience, a place for creeps: by touting privacy and “incognito browsing” (in other words, you’ll never see or be seen by any Facebook friends) above all else in the sign-up flow, the app surrounded the service in secrecy and maybe even a little shame, marking itself as slightly taboo, wrapping itself in the black plastic bag others might use to carry a newly purchased dildo out of a sex shop. Apps like these make it easier than ever to be a unicorn, but it can also be a bit overwhelming. But with Feeld (and 3somer), the threesome is the intended end goal. With general dating apps like Tinder or OkCupid, a threesome is a bonus outcome. I dove into being a full-time unicorn with Feeld (formerly 3nder), an app that connects curious or kinky couples with individuals who are interested in a hook-up. I myself am a unicorn and have been having the most fun and hot threesome sex of my life since proudly wearing my ? on my sleeve (a.k.a. There are also, of course, male unicorns or gender-nonconforming unicorns, as well as gay or poly couples who seek out a unicorn arrangement. Typically, the sex-kind of unicorn is a bisexual girl who is down to hook up with generally heterosexual, monogamish couples, often as a no-strings-attached threesome experience arranged in advance. But in this month when sex and love are on the brain (and the calendar), let us focus on the sexually positive, socially progressive, and wildly fun other type of unicorn: the person who sleeps with couples. To some idiot I met at a party a few weeks back, a unicorn is a "not insanely expensive" apartment in Brooklyn. Or the Silicon Valley unicorn-a startup valued at over a billion dollars. We’re all familiar with the mythical unicorn-a horse with an insanely phallic symbol protruding from its forehead.